Disclaimer for the sensitive: I have no problems with interracial dating. Date who you want…I could give 2 “you know whats”.
Lately I’ve seen an influx in men of color broadcasting their choices to deal with women of other races. But their declaration was done by listing off things that they can’t stand about black women, or why we’ve single handedly managed to push you all away. Once that happens, we get mad and it comes across as us having a problem with your non-black girlfriend, but that isn’t the case.
What makes us upset is you naming things that are wrong with us to justify your reasons for dating outside of your race. When in actuality, we (black women) haven’t done anything wrong to you except act as a scapegoat for your own questionable conscience and lack of balls.
These days, nobody cares who you date. Especially as the world continues to become a melting pot of races/nationalities. The more mixtures the better. But please don’t mistake us being upset about you bashing us with obscenities, yelling about what we’re not doing during the day & night and finding silly things to pick at such as wearing a weave vs. natural hair for actually being upset about your new girlfriend and love for other flavors of women. Nobody cares.
Fellas, if a woman of color has actually wronged you currently or in the past, please feel free to chime in. And I don’t mean you talking about the time when your black girlfriend did something to you after you cheated on her. I’m talking about some down right, shady women stories. If you don’t have any examples, it’s time to stop it and quit using that as an excuse. An excuse to justify why you don’t want to fool with us anymore. Its 2012…love who you want to love. Date who you want to date. But bashing us in the process of you discovering your new preferences needs to NOT be the move.
The days of screaming “I’m only dating non-black women from now on because yall are annoying, always complaining, yall are shady and only wanna be basketball wives” are over. Change that whole phrase to you keeping your mouth shut and going about your dating life in peace. You don’t have to make women of color feel inferior to justify your life choices. Have some class.
And please stop using the excuse of “Black women are crazy”. All women are crazy. That excuse is not good enough. If you haven’t learned that by now, there’s no hope for you and your dating future so go ahead and stop reading. You need more help/advice than this blog has to offer. If you’re going to throw out examples, please make sure they’re all accurate. Or at least make sure they sound accurate.
One question that I have is this: Do men of other races outwardly bash and disrespect their women also? I’ve never came across a situation where I have witnessed something like that. Or if they do, it seems as if they’re doing a pretty good job of “keeping family business in the family”.
But one thing I’ve noticed is that when you outwardly disrespect your own it gives others unofficial permission to do the same. So when some random black guy feels the need to talk about how your mom or sister isn’t worth a damned, remember where that level of comfortable disrespect originated from. And remember how you don’t like black women anyway, so politely nod in agreement to every disrespectful thing that exits their mouths, while maintaining your “hush face”. Why? Because you’ve probably said those same things about someone else’s mom or sister.
One last question: When others are disrespecting us, are you defending us? Or are you joining in?
*Women if this applies to you, you need to get it together as well.*